Welcome to Gretta Krane's Newsletter, "Life is a Choice"

This monthly newsletter is written with the intention of showing there really are nothing but possibilities in our lives. Our lives are filled with choices most of us are not even aware that we have. We get to choose how we feel, what we believe, and what to create in our lives.

This newsletter is all about the creative power that we all hold inside of us...

One day while driving to my mother's house, I decided to take the short cut which meant we would need to drive through a very destitute and impoverished neighborhood. This is a neighborhood where people literally live in shacks with falling walls. This neighborhood is known for its deprivation. As we drove through, Dominic, one of my eleven year old sons, said to me, "Mom why do these people live like this, why don't they do something to change their lives?"

And I said, "Well they may have been taught that this is all they can achieve by their parents, grand parents. Maybe their great-grandparents were made to believe this is all you can have in life. I don't think they are being taught how to change their lives and that they can have more. And unless you are taught that you can or believe you can, it's very difficult to make changes in your life. No matter who you are. And that goes for anything in your life. I'm talking about everybody, not just the people who live in poverty."

He said, "But what do you mean taught? They teach their kids to live in shacks? And why don't they believe they can?"

I wanted to think of a way to effectively explain to Dominic why people think the way they do, so after pausing for a moment I thought of my answer, and it was this...

I said, "Well, if you think of yourself when you're first born, as a computer with a blank slate, with no programs installed yet. But as all babies do, they learn from all of the people around them. So, a baby computer is going be taught and influenced or given programs from their parents, and friends and grandparents, relatives, schools and churches, government and society. Everyone around the baby is teaching them or downloading their programs into them. Think of everything a baby learns as a program. These programs teach the computer how to think, how to feel, and how to act. And what happens when the baby computer grows up and has its own computers is it can only download into the baby what it has been taught or programmed. This goes for all babies, including you!

"But not all programs are good, in fact some carry viruses. These viruses can corrupt the positive programs in many different ways and can actually limit the way a computer can perform or can cause the computer to crash entirely. In human terms it can cause the baby to grow up believing they are limited or unable or not good enough to succeed or to change their life or to create a dream. They are stuck living with the same program or belief for the rest of their life. And by the time you are an adult, your computer has got a lot of programs running it.

"No new programs can be downloaded because the old programs take up all the memory and they carry the viruses that will damage the new thoughts or programs being downloaded. You can't just download a new and life changing program in a computer that has a virus running wild, it won't run. Even if the new program will make the computer able to perform in ways it never has before and even able to create new dreams and happiness, if there is a corrupt program in the computer, the new and wonderful program will not run.

"But, here's the good news, there are ways in which to get rid of the old programs that do not serve you. But you have to go in and find the corrupt programs that make you feel limited or unable to succeed and then HIT DELETE!"

Dominic smiled and said, "I get it Mom that was a really great way to explain that. Hit Delete!"

I said, "Yep, so you and Zachary and all the people in the world, including me, everyone has been taught things or learned things that do not serve them. Your experience is different than theirs, but if you ever feel unable to achieve something, that's a belief that does not serve you. All the journaling and writing I do and am teaching you boys to do, is all about getting rid of programs that do not help you. And it's good to know there are ways in which to get rid of the old programs. So maybe if people who live such destitute lives believed or were taught they could change their lives, maybe they would."

I left the conversation at that, thinking this was enough for now. But I do know that we will continue the conversation because I want to speak to them about the many ways that our thoughts or programs can limit us.

The way we think about ourselves, believe in ourselves, and act, is all a program that we have taken on as our truth. But is it? Is it really our truth? I believe we can change our truth. God knows I have, many times now. I don't believe there is such a thing as "can't." only programs that teach "can't." Once we break free from old programs that keep us feeling limited in anyway, we truly are able to create any possibility. And this is what I believe to be true - anything and everything is possible if we believe it. Our thoughts are the only thing that keeps us limited. Our thoughts create our reality.

And our reality can change as our thoughts change, so what we think or believe is not necessarily truth. It could just be a program that came from someone else.

One of my favorite sayings is "You're not stuck, you only think you are." Again it goes back to programs making you believe you are stuck.

Many people will go the rest of their lives running on the same old programs because they have been taught to fear change or anything new or different. And they may live the rest of their life feeling limited or unable or not good enough.

Some people will decide they do want to change their lives and will work very hard on new programs or teachings so they can learn how to create their dreams and happiness. In the process few are actually able to achieve their goals because they have not gotten rid of the old programming. So they become frustrated and give up! When actually the problem is not the new program or teachings, it's that they're downloading on top of old, viral programs that cannot be gotten rid of, until you find them and then delete them. Once you find the beliefs that do not serve you and you unearth where they came from, you can release them, letting them go forever. Once the virus is gone, your computer is ready, willing and able to learn new thoughts, beliefs and programs.

Most thoughts, feelings, opinions, and beliefs have been learned, and the great news is they can be unlearned. There are numerous therapies: traditional, non-traditional, dance, art, writing, and music. There are many different kinds of counselors, coaches and therapists, to help a person find the old programs that just aren't working for them any longer. There are a countless number of books out there that can support you and what you want to achieve.

So if you are a person seeking to change your life or if you are sitting in a well of despair - there is help! Reach out, do the work, you deserve it!

Find those old, corrupt programs that are not who you want to be anymore, and do what I did - HIT DELETE!

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